“Take a breath” they say. The world is crashing down. You are filled with anxiety/rage/existential dread/fatigue or a combination of them all. And they have the audacity to tell you to take a breath. Really? Are they–those unspecified hobgoblins who clearly don’t get it–even in touch with reality?
Look, I get it. I have been on the receiving end of the “take a breath!” comment in the midst of high emotions. It was far more likely to induce me to take a swing at the person who uttered it than to help me calm down. Nonetheless, it is good advice. (Though I must also add that not giving advice to someone experiencing the throes of high emotions is also good advice.)
Sorry to be annoying in this way, but a few breaths really can make a big difference. Here are a few reasons why.
1. 5 Deep Breaths = A Minute
Have you ever paid attention to how long a deep breath takes? By a deep breath, I mean a breath where you fill up the lungs, pause for a beat, empty the lungs, and pause again? Try it and time yourself. It probably takes somewhere between 5 and 10 seconds.
You don’t have to be a math whiz to realize that this means 5 breaths is equivalent to about a minute. When it comes to calming down, easing back, or taking a break, a minute can be a game changer. If you bring the breath tally up to 10, you are in the 2 to 3 minute range. In my book, that’s a full blown meditation.
The point here is that 5 breaths is not nothing. It’s a meaningful chunk of time when used strategically in critical situations.
2. The Breath Is the Link Between Body and Mind
How can a few breaths have an impact so quickly? As I have written before, the breath is the link between body and mind. Our breath is literally linked to our nervous system. It is the only non-chemical way our brains can consciously modulate our nervous systems.
Thus, if time is short or quick stability is needed, noticing the breath is the most direct route to managing emotions. We can’t always have perfect control over this in difficult times but with practice we can learn to slow down or disrupt an emotional chain reaction. This can give us more agency to care for ourselves and maintain stability in difficult circumstances.
3. Emotions Don’t Last Long
Now you might be thinking, “there’s nothing magical about the 1-3 minute range.” If so, that’s understandable but it is overlooking something.
Did you know that emotions, at least the physical experience of them, only last about 90 seconds in the body? One reason why meditation can be so impactful is that it helps us watch this play out.
Not only can pausing and sitting with emotions help us see that they quickly shift from one emotion to another. But also watching emotions helps us see that they are often short-lived when we don’t let them mix too much with protracting thoughts.
What on earth are we to do while waiting for this 90-second bout of physical intensity to subside? Ahem, allow me to suggest 5 to 10 deep breaths. Now do you get my drift?
4. Just Pausing Can Help with Overwhelm
So what about the times when you are so overwhelmed that you can’t even identify emotions in your body? This, I know, is one of the worst experiences to have.
Overwhelm happens when you encounter something difficult and you feel like you don’t have the support, resources, or personal fortitude to survive it. Obviously, calming down, reassessing, and reconnecting with sources of strength is essential. But before you can do that you have to get your bearings.
In my experience, overwhelm usually calls for an initial pause. When things are tough, taking a moment to come back to your body and reestablish some calm can help. Complicated practices are a challenge here because you may not have the presence of mind to use them.
This is why so many people swear by box breathing or other pranayama strategies. They are simple and effective and can be a link back to reality and yourself. In the same way, remembering to take just a few breaths can help you deal with overwhelm.
5. A Few Breaths Can Grow Into More
And the final reason that a few breaths really matters? You don’t have to stick to just a few breaths. Ten years ago, I started meditating at 1 to 2 minutes a day. Over time, I gradually increased the time I could spend sitting.
A few breaths can make a world of difference in tense times, but as you get more comfortable those few breaths can serve as a foundation for further practice and exploration. You can learn to sit for longer periods, you can try other transformative practices, or you can incorporate breathwork into your physical fitness routine. In themselves, a few breaths can make an impact but honing the skill of connecting with the breath can support you in myriad other ways beyond momentarily calming down.
I’m sorry if this post was annoying or kind of basic. If there’s anything meditation can teach us, though, it’s that basic things are often true and can be impactful. The breath is one of those things and a few breaths really can make a big difference.
If you want to test this theory, check out our 5 and 10 breath meditations here or on Insight Timer:
Want to learn more about mindfulness and compassion? Check out my new book, How to Be a Badass Lawyer, for a simple guide to creating a meditation practice of your own in 30 days. And to share mindfulness with your little one, check out my new children’s book, Mommy Needs a Minute.
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